It really does bear repeating that I fully support equal rights for gays and lesbians in this country. It drives me crazy that there are people in this country who are actually entertaining a constitutional amendment to create special rights for heterosexuals and ban marriage by gays and lesbians. These people want government to pander to their own sense of vanity and desire to feel superior to others. After a horrendous history of success (ie. 50% divorce rate and high rate of domestic violence), heterosexuals have absolutely no claim to have a monopoly on matrimonial rights. None.
I don't see how Americans feel comfortable with themselves as Americans, when there is a group of law-abiding, tax paying citizens who are discriminated against and persecuted as they are. Every American should be ashamed for letting this go on too long.
It is insane to kick gays and lesbians out of the armed forces, especially when they are highly trained and skilled, and are willing to protect a country that denies them basic rights. The argument is that it would undermine troop cohesiveness. So you are telling me that the best trained army in the world can't be trained to be professional enough to do their job rather than worry about the sexual preference of the other guy? If people are not professional enough to handle gays and lesbians they are not disciplined enough to be in the army. Gays and lesbians are not the problem, it is these unprofessional soldiers who have the problem. Their sensibilities are not more important than recruiting skilled professionals.
Occasionally you will get a guy who is so distraught about being hit on by a gay guy. I find these guys very immature. One of the things that we have to deal with is being approached by people who we are not attracted to. Part of being an adult is being able to decline their affections without freaking out and being nice about it, since it could be us who approach someone who isn't attracted to us. If you are not attracted to the person, who cares if it is the member of the opposite sex that approaches you? Be polite and appreciate the compliment, and move on people. It isn't that hard.
More often you find the guy who is just afraid he will be hit on. In many cases, they are giving themselves way too much credit that any gay guy would find them at all attractive. I say to them, get over yourselves and grow up. If the worst thing that can happen to you is to be hit on by someone of the same gender, you are doing great!